Here’s the deal. You singled out a category of moms, and it pissed me off.
Motherhood is hard. I may celebrate a sweat-induced workout squeezed in during one child’s nap time, and before another child’s school pick-up. But, I also cherish the moments away from the barbell (not so much cleaning the same spot on the floor 20x a day, but that’s another post).
My friend clued me into the recent post: Dear #fitmom: We have a problem, knowing that I’d have a problem with this post. And, I do.
I’ve read the post several times to make sure I wasn’t jumping to conclusions.
It still bothers me.
You see, I do consider myself a #fitmom, and I take an enormous amount of pride in that hashtag.
When I share an exercise video or a sweaty, post-workout picture, I hope that another mom can duplicate that workout or see that taking time to care for yourself is more than okay. It’s absolutely necessary.
After the birth of my second baby (six weeks postpartum and cleared for exercise, mind you), I remember getting negative comments on social media for actually taking time to exercise.
Shouldn’t I spend that time with my kids instead?
Don’t I feel guilty for using that time (20-30 minutes) to exercise instead of playing with my preschooler?
I’m with my kids all. damn. day.
No, I do not feel guilty for setting an example that daily movement is important and vital to a healthy life.
No, I do not feel guilty when my 4 year old daughter asks to work out with me.
No, I do not feel guilty for illustrating to my children that moms are fit, strong, smart, kind, selfless, creative, tireless superheroes that need to care for ourselves before caring for others or we will lose our minds!
It’s also my job to fall under that #fitmom hashtag.
I’m a personal trainer.
Oh, I must be so self-absorbed and obsessed with how my body looks?!!
Full disclosure: I want to look like an athlete. Should I be ashamed of that?
Being fit takes hard work, dedication, and discipline, all traits I pray I instill in my children. I don’t want them feeling entitled. They have to work hard to get good results. Even when they don’t want to. Suck it up, and do hard things.
I train so I can lift, climb, jump, and run for years to come…with my kids!
I train because I feel more energized after those 20 minutes of pushing myself than if I sat still (but sometimes we need to do that too.)
I train so my daughter and son see that moms are strong (not just physically), confident, and powerful.
Exercise is one way I do that, not the only way. Other moms have different gifts and methods to illustrate those very characteristics.
So, #goodmom if you are indeed celebrating all things motherhood, then understand #momlife includes array of experiences, traits, and practices. We are all simply trying to be our best version, dumbbells and all.