Hope you all had a fabulous 4th of July weekend! And, THANK YOU for all your wonderful comments on my last post! Warms my heart.
We celebrated the 3rd of July because Spencer would be gone for 5 days recruiting in Georgia.
It is so much harder for him to leave now that we have Jada. And, she truly is changing daily. Why did you all not warn me about this?!
Spencer loves to host gatherings, so we invited the family over for grilled burgers and finished with dessert!
Oh yes. That blurry image is a s’more. I obviously was in a hurry to shove it in my mouth hence the blurriness!
Spence built this fire pit one day last fall, and we are finally getting around to using it! (Please note Cooper shredding the cardboard!)
We love our backyard–plenty of space for Cooper and his buddies.
The picture below isn’t really fair–Spence was finishing off a s’more and trying to smile. Of course, I wouldn’t post this pic if the roles were reversed!
>Oh my goodness. I need a haircut! Got plenty of time for that now…
We didn’t light any fireworks that night, but my neighborhood celebrated for several days before AND after the holiday. Oh joy. I don’t get the loud firecrackers. Do you?
So, getting back to the “Spencer is gone for 5 days”. That can be a little scary with a 3 week old baby (now 4 weeks). While these little humans are immobile, they certainly require A TON of time and attention.
Doesn’t she look peaceful here? I wanna sleep like this…oh wait, I just wanna sleep!
Unfortunately, Spencer doesn’t have paternity leave either. Currently, it is heavy recruiting for college baseball, so he never took a day off when Jada was born. He was, however, able to stay local initially.
Back to the post, while I love baby snuggles…
Caring for a newborn is tough. Breast feeding is demanding and hard. In fact, Janae just wrote a post on this. There are days when I’m feeding her on and off for 3-4 hours without an extended break. Squeezing in a shower may or may not happen.
So, I have learned that I can’t do it all. I need help.
Can You Help Me?
Asking for help with a newborn was tough. I’m pretty independent–funny how 8 lbs of baby can destroy any feelings of competence, huh?!
But, I’m also very lucky. Moving back to Omaha, means I have my parents near and Jada has her grandparents. I want my mom and dad to feel like grandparents though, not day care.
However, during the first month or so, you simply need more help!
So, even if it is grandma simply holding Jada while I grab a bite to eat…
Or, grandpa soothing her so I can take a shower…
Those precious moments help SO MUCH! And, never will I take a shower for granted again!
Plus, they both find holding a sleeping baby so calming.
I find it’s still hard for me to ask for help. My parents know this about me too, so they check on me daily either by phone or a brief visit.
I don’t want to seem bossy or ungrateful.
But, I simply can’t do it all without help. Period.
So, I am giving in. Yes, I need help. Thank you mom and dad. I love you both so much!
And, so does this little girl.
Do you finding asking for help in general to be a challenge?